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Research supporting co-parenting
After more than 40 years since the custody wars began, we can now substitute the theoretical and ideological debate with a more concrete and practical approach based on research findings.
- Consensus on benefits of co-parenting for children
- Social Science and Parenting Plans for Young Children: A Consensus Report. This review was signed by 110 child development experts. "the social science evidence on the development of healthy parent-child relationships, and the long-term benefits of healthy parent-child relationships, supports the view that [co-parenting] should be the norm for parenting plans for children of all ages, including very young children."
- Joint custody should be the rule, not the exception "A little-noticed research revolution confirms that our family courts are damaging the health of our children on a daily basis."
- Shared Physical Custody: Summary of 40 Studies on Outcomes for Children "Overall the children in shared parenting families had better outcomes on measures of emotional, behavioral, and psychological well-being, as well as better physical health and better relationships with their fathers and their mothers, benefits that remained even when there were high levels of conflict between their parents."
- Benefits of equal custody arrangements
- Equal Parenting and the Quality of Parent-Child Attachments "Quality of parent-child attachments is also largely dependent on the well-being of parents. Parent well-being is furthered with equal or shared parenting, as neither parent is threatened with the loss of his or her children"
- Preschool children living in joint physical custody arrangements show less psychological symptoms than those living mostly or only with one parent "Preschool children who spent about equal time in both of their parent's respective homes after a separation showed less psychological problems than those living mostly or only with one parent."
- Joint Versus Sole Physical Custody "[co-parenting] is generally linked to better outcomes than [single-custodial-parenting] for children, independent of parental conflict, family income, or the quality of children's relationships with their parents. Parents do not need to have a low conflict, communicative coparenting relationship or mutually agree to [co-parenting] at the outset in order for children to benefit from [co-parenting]. Nor is there reliable evidence that children under the age of four are harmed by or do not benefit from [co-parenting] or frequent overnighting."
- Co-parenting best for toddlers and infants "[the findings] provide strong support for policies to encourage frequent overnight parenting time for infants and toddlers, because the benefits associated with overnights also held for parents who initially agreed about overnights as well as for those who disagreed and had the overnight parenting plan imposed over one parent's objections."
- Custody battles have a destructive effect on children "reality is the quantity of the time turns out to be more important than the quality of the time. Kids are more profoundly affected by a lack of quantity of time other than that of the actual environment of either parent"
- Is there an association between joint physical custody and psychosomatic problems in children? "Those in joint physical custody do however report better psychosomatic health than children living mostly or only with one parent."
- High conflict cases "independent of family income or parental conflict, [co-parenting] is generally linked to better outcomes for children."
- Sixteen arguments in support of an equal parental responsibility presumption "She found that the benefits of co-parenting were evident in both the harmonious and conflicted co-parenting groups, and that the strongest predictor of child well-being was the active involvement of co-parents in children's lives."
- Resources for Shared Parenting
Those in favor of co-parenting
- Kentucky favors co-parenting and it's working.
- Children favor co-parenting "The vast majority of children who lived with their mothers after their parents divorce disliked having so little time with their fathers. In contrast, the vast majority who have lived in shared residential parenting families say the inconvenience of living in two homes was worth it - primarily because they were able to maintain strong relationships with both parents."
- Family law attorney Jeff Janssen speaks out to support co-parenting, against the Bar Association and his own self-interest as an attorney for the sake of the children
- The general public favors co-parenting
- Poll results summary "shared parenting [has] consistently gotten very strong support with the public, to the tune of 70% or higher. The highest that we saw was in Massachusetts, where they actually had a nonbinding ballot initiative. Over 600,000 people voted. And it received 86% favorability."
- Eighty-seven percent of Kansans said they believe it is in the best interests of the child to have as much time as possible with both fit parents "Shared parenting (equal physical time with two fit parents after divorce/separation) has widespread support among men and women, Republicans and Democrats and across every age and racial group."
- Mothers
- Fathers
- Grandparents
- Veterans
- Attorneys
- Expert witnesses
- Rosy Stanesby - Family Court Abuse: A perspective from England, but this rings true for countless experiences in U.S. family courts.
- Children of divorced parents
- Leading Women for Shared Parenting
- Mark Roseman
- Iowa subcommittee hearing testimonies on co-parenting bill part 1 and part 2
- Erased parents more info here
"So when we dug deeper into the numbers, what we actually found, and this is backed up in poll after poll, is that men and women support shared parenting in equal numbers."
Those opposing co-parenting
- Divorce lawyer lobby groups
- Michael Strauss, an ISBA attorney opposes the Illinois Equal Parenting Bill in testimony in front of the Illinois Restorative Justice Committee, April 11, 2018. The emphasis of this testimony is on maximizing State funds rather than considering the well-being of children experiencing divorce, who are regarded as mere sources of income for the State. Co-parenting means more working parents and less parents who need child support from the other parent. This in turn, means Illinois will collect less in federal funds (hundreds of millions of dollars) that are supposed to be used to help states collect child support money. Strauss further argues "as well as parents not being eligible for State aid", which also comes about because both parents have equal opportunity to work and support their children and so, less parents need to rely on State aid. Strauss argues against financial independence and for welfare dependency, which we contend is fundamentally flawed and certainly not with for the best interests of the children.
- State Agencies A State should never be given the choice between the welfare of a child and financial gain: "The child support agency argued that enacting shared parenting would jeopardize federal funds to the state. In a nutshell the state argued that giving children a full relationship with both parents would put North Dakota's child support program out of compliance with federal regulations and cause the state to immediately forfeit several tens of millions of dollars in federal funds over a two year period."
- Countering Arguments Against Shared Parenting in Family Law
- If Feminism Is About Equality, Why Do Feminists Oppose Equality? (Janet Bloomfield)
- Family court judges contradict parenting trends "Family judges are supposed to act in children's best interests, but LW4SP analysis shows them doing the opposite."
- Do divorce lawyers serve children?
Domestic violence
- CDC on Child Maltreatment: 54% of perpetrators were women and 45% of perpetrators were men full report here
- Child abuse fatalities more likely perpetrated by mothers (2x and rising) than fathers
- CDC Study: More Men than Women Victims of Partner Abuse
- Murray Straus - 30 Years of Research on Partner Violence
- Domestic violence is not a gender issue
- The uncomfortable facts on IPV
Casualties of war
- Walter Scott Had Bench Warrant for His Arrest, Court Documents Show
- Chris Mackney - A Casualty of Family Court
- Custody battles worsen - and kids are casualties
- B.C. man pleads for family court reform in suicide note, Canadian family court problems mirror U.S. family courts.
- Children's perspective of losing a parent to family court. While these stories relate to family courts in the U.K., they share the same model with U.S. family courts with the same nebulous "best interests of the child" standard.
Domestic inequality
- A Fit Parent Loses Custody of Her Child - judge appears to favor campaign contributors
- Child Custody: Statistical Concerns "Notably, of the 90 judges in the state, six judges ordered 32% of all shared parenting orders. One judge awarded custody to the mother 32.2%, to the father 15.7% and shared parenting 41.7%. Another judge awarded custody to the wife 62.5%, 9.4% to the husband and joint custody, zero times."
- Family court alienates children from parents "Alex says they weren't even allowed to say goodbye to their father. Ana will never forget the experience."
- State-by-state report card of co-parenting recap video here
- Gender discrimination in joint custody "The benefits of a presumption for joint custody warrant that it should exist in all states. The presumption in favor of joint custody should be both cultural and legal, but in effect, the one creates the other."
- Texas family lawyer training on using protective (restraining) orders as leverage in a custody battle, emphasizing that "these orders are easy to obtain with very low standard of evidence". This tactic is often referred to as the "silver bullet".
- Weitzman influences national law and the thinking of Presidents based on flawed data and results
Law & Constitutionality of Co-parenting
- TROXEL V. GRANVILLE (99-138) 530 U.S. 57 (2000) "There is a presumption that fit parents act in their children's best interests, Parham v. J. R., 442 U.S. 584, 602; there is normally no reason for the State to inject itself into the private realm of the family to further question fit parents' ability to make the best decisions regarding their children, see, e.g., Reno v. Flores, 507 U.S. 292, 304"
- What are the Legal Rights of Children? "Children are also entitled to due process, which includes notice and a hearing, before any of their basic rights are taken away by the government."
- Opinion of Troxel v. Granville "the Due Process Clause does not permit a State to infringe on the fundamental right of parents to make childrearing decisions simply because a state judge believes a better decision could be made"
- Common Constitutional Issues in Family Law "Surveys of child custody decisions, including the Nebraska 2002-2012 Custody Court File Research Study, show similar facts often produce vastly different outcomes. Facts that might result in joint legal custody and 50-50 parenting time in Omaha will likely result in sole legal custody and 80-20 parenting time in North Platte. These surveys show case outcomes often depend more on the judge who hears the case than the law or the facts of the case."
- Hillary Rodham, Children Under the Law (1973) "The best interests standard, initially followed in most state interventions and explicitly used as the standard for adjudicating children's interests in proceedings evaluating parental care, is not properly a standard. Instead, it is a rationalization by decision-makers justifying their judgments about a child's future, like an empty vessel into which adult perceptions and prejudices are poured. It does not offer guidelines for how adult powers should be exercised. Seductively, it implies that there is a best alternative for children deprived of their family. This implication prevents both the decision-maker and those to whom he is accountable from carefully weighing the possible negative impact of any decision."
- Summary of domestic case law "Parental rights may not be terminated without clear and convincing evidence. SANTOSKY V. KRAMER, 102 S.Ct. 1388 [1982]"
- Calabretta v. Floyd "The government's interest in the welfare of children embraces not only protecting children from physical abuse, but also protecting children's interest in the privacy and dignity of their homes and in the lawfully exercised authority of their parents."
- Smith (1991), 77 Ohio App.3d "A termination of parental rights is the family law equivalent of the death penalty in a criminal case. The parties to such an action must be afforded every procedural and substantive protection the law allows."
- The Constitutional Right to Parent "in Santosky v. Kramer, 455 U.S. at 749, 753-54, the Court expressly held that the interest of a parent, who has temporarily lost custody of his child, in avoiding elimination of his rights ever to visit, communicate with, or regain custody of the child is important enough to entitle him to the procedural protections mandated by the Due Process Clause."
Family court injustice & misconduct
- Attorney exposes judicial bribery & corruption, is then sentenced to solitary confinement
- Susan Settenbrino: misconduct by family court judges
- A taste of misconduct by courthouse insiders
- Bribes and threats by family court judges
- Conflict of interest in relationships between judges and courthouse insiders
- Misconduct in Connecticut
- False allegations of abuse supported by a corrupt judge
- Conflicts abound between attorney and family court judge "It's the worst kept secret at the Harris County Family law Center that there is a relationship between Judge Lombardino and Mr. Newman, and it impacts cases that Judge Lombardino presides over and that Mr. Newman is involved in."
- A Broken System: Unconstitutionality Of Family Law
- A Broken System: Oaths Betrayed In Family Law
- Divorce Corp "This documentary film uncovers how children are torn from their homes, unlicensed custody evaluators extort money, and abusive judges play god with people's lives while enriching their friends. This explosive documentary reveals the family courts as unregulated, extra-constitutional fiefdoms. Rather than assist victims of domestic crimes, these courts often precipitate them. And rather than help parents and children move on, as they are mandated to do, these courts - and their associates - drag out cases for years, sometimes decades"
- Palmore v. Sidoti, custody ruling based on race
- Custody practices hurt kids, taxpayers
- State of the Children Conference, Detroit, December 2018
- Keeping the wars going
- Judicial misconduct, Sacramento, CA
- Mandatory support for lobbying against co-parenting overruled
- Justice, Ideology & Conflicts of Interest "One objective of the revamped system was to keep all family court proceedings in-house: within the isolated family relations courthouse. Prior to the change, trials were conducted at the downtown, main courthouse and before judges more likely to have a neutral perspective on a given case, and less likely to have ties to the family law bar."